Introduction

Spending time with your baby and talking and singing to them helps them feel safe and secure. They also learn how to communicate.

Cuddling up with a story, song or rhyme is a great way for you to bond, especially if you add tickling and making eye contact.

Your voice

 Even before they’re born, hearing your voice is important. 

If you can talk to them often about what you’re doing or what you can see around you, it will help their language and communication skills to develop.

Playing with your baby

Play is really important for your baby too, even at this early age. As they grow it will become a great way for them to stay healthy and develop physically and emotionally.

Play can help your baby develop their:

  • speech, language and social skills
  • physical strength and coordination

It’s a great way for any brothers and sisters to get to know the baby too, though they may need you to guide them.

Your baby’s best and favourite plaything is you. You and the world around you are all they need right now, so don’t worry if you haven’t got a box full of toys ready.

Talking and singing to your baby

Your baby loves the sound of your voice and watching your face. Sharing songs and rhymes will be one of their first experiences of play and most really enjoy it.

Songs, rhymes and stories can suit different times of day. They can:

  • comfort and soothe your baby if they’re crying or sleepy
  • be a way to play together, using tickling or action songs or rhymes

Talk directly to them and make eye contact, but also slow your speech down and use a higher pitch. A 'sing-song' voice works well.

Avoid distractions

Try and have some quiet time every day without any distractions where you can really focus on your baby.

Look for times when they seem alert and make sure there are no distractions or background noise, such as TV or mobile phones. This helps them to focus on your voice.

Respond to your baby

Your baby will be trying to connect with you too. At first this might be:

  • huge cries
  • very small attempts to communicate
  • little movements
  • a sense they’re looking at you differently

If you spot some of these, respond to your baby and then wait for a while. It might take more than 10 seconds while your baby gets a response together, but it will come.

If they turn their head away don’t worry, it usually means they just need a quick break.

Gentle touch and massage

Gentle touch and baby massage have benefits for you and your baby. Having this kind of skin-to-skin contact with your baby can help them thrive and help you be more confident as a parent.

You can start baby massage from birth, but:

  • don’t do anything your baby doesn’t like
  • stop if they’re getting distressed in any way
  • only use natural oils such as grapeseed or almond oil, as essential oils can cause allergic reactions and irritated skin

There may be a local baby massage group near you, so ask your midwife, health visitor or family nurse if you’d like to try it.

Reading to your baby

If you read or share books with your baby, even from a very young age, you’ll be helping them to develop the skills they need later in life.

Just a few minutes a day will help their language skills and development. It doesn’t matter if you’re not sure about reading aloud – your baby loves hearing your voice so just talk about the pictures.

Libraries

It’s free to get books for your baby if you join your local library. Ask the librarian if any other activities and events for parents and babies happen at the library too.

Find your local library

Baby box

Your Baby Box will include books to read to your baby while you're pregnant and after they're born.

More about the Baby Box

Bookbug

Bookbug gives every child in Scotland 4 free bags of books and resources such as CDs of songs and rhymes, between birth and the age of 5.

Bookbug also runs free Bookbug sessions in partnership with libraries and community groups across Scotland. These are fun sessions of stories, songs and rhymes to enjoy with your baby, and a great way to meet other families near you.

Your first bag of books

You’ll get your first Bookbug bag from your health visitor or family nurse when your baby is between 3 and 5 weeks old.

The bags come in English and Gaelic versions and there are also tactile books available if you have a baby with additional needs.

The Scottish Book Trust has more about Bookbug

play@home programme

You are your baby’s first teacher and you can help them learn to play by copying you and using lots of touch and movement.

The play@home programme has lots of activity ideas you can use to play with your baby.

You’ll get 3 books between birth and your baby’s 5th birthday. The first covers from birth to one year and it’s called the yellow book.

Your health visitor or family nurse can tell you more about it.

Digital distractions

TV, tablets and phones are a big part of our lives now. But they can be distracting, so you might miss out on one-to-one time with your baby.

Screen time

Think about how much time you spend talking and playing with your baby and whether you might be missing some of those chances because of the TV or phone.

Even a TV that’s on in the background can be distracting for your baby:

  • If the sound's on they can’t tune in to your voice
  • If the sound's off the changing pictures can distract them

Just be aware of how much time you’re spending on your phone or tablet. Make sure it’s not getting in the way of talking and playing with your baby, spending time with your family and friends or being active.

Can't put the phone down?

Everyone finds it hard to put their phone down sometimes.

To help you focus on your baby, try to:

  • set aside special times for talk and play, even if they’re short
  • put the phone in another room on silent when you talk with your baby
  • use the times when your baby's asleep for social media catch-up.

You can also try an app that helps you manage your screen time.

Baby time

Try and find time every day when you’re away from screens so you can focus on playing and talking with your baby.

You could do that when:

  • they’re just awake and interested
  • you’re feeding
  • you're out and about

If you’re feeling stressed or lonely, sometimes chatting with your baby can help you feel better.

Bed time

Screens at bedtime can be bad for your sleep.

If you’re as tired as most parents are, try to:

  • have an hour or so before bed without your phone or tablet
  • set your phone to flight mode or put it a few feet away from your bed when you go to sleep

Social media

Social media and apps can be great for sharing news about life with your baby with your family and friends. It can also help you to keep in touch and feel less isolated or cut off from friends or work.

Think carefully about whether to share photos of your baby through social media. Photos are online for a long time and as your child gets older and becomes an adult, they may not want other people to see them.